The Grin I Didn't Understand: Facing My Own Insanity
When we are in the middle of it, we call it "getting by" or "handling it." Looking back now, the only word for it was insanity.
In the Big Book, there’s a story about two men visiting a guy named Jim. They were grinning, and he hated it. I remember being in that exact spot—deftly protecting my own delusions while people who had found a way out tried to reach me. At the time, I was too deep in the Mental Fog to even comprehend what they were offering. I was "licked," but I was the last one to admit it.
The Blind Spot of Delusion
The hardest part about being delusional is that you don't know you're delusional. You think you’re the only one with the "real" facts. When people came to see me back then, I didn't see messengers of hope; I saw people who didn't understand my "unique" situation.
I couldn't see that:
• My self-reliance was a broken tool.
• My "best thinking" was what kept me trapped.
• The "flicker of conviction" that I could do it myself was actually the thing keeping me from getting better.
What I Wish I Knew Then
If I could go back and talk to that version of myself, I’d want to bridge that gap. I would have told myself that the "drastic" program of action isn't a punishment—it's a rescue.
I lived a life that wasn't necessarily "bad" by the world's standards, but it was hollow. I was a "nominal" person—going through the motions but spiritually empty. I wish I had known then that throwing my old conceptions out the window wouldn't leave me empty-handed; it would finally leave my hands free to pick up a Common Solution.
Passing It On
I can't change the path I took. Those years of insanity are part of my history now. But what I can do is pass on the experience. I’m not here to preach or to give you a lecture. I’m just a guy who was once too blind to see the exit sign, showing you where I finally found it.
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Medical Disclaimer: Unity for Recovery is a peer-resource hub. The term "insanity" is used here in a spiritual and 12-step context regarding the obsession to drink, not as a clinical diagnosis. Always consult a healthcare professional for medical needs.
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