Living in a sober house is not a spiritual solution in itself; it is a controlled environment designed to give the alcoholic the "breathing room" necessary to establish a permanent connection with a Power greater than themselves. To find lasting recovery, we must move past generic "strategies" and embrace the 1939 Blueprint for living.
The Singleness of Purpose in Recovery Housing
By applying a strict guideline of singleness of purpose, we eliminate the clutter of outside sources. We do not look to science or generic wellness for our recovery; we look to the experience, strength, and hope found in the 12 Steps of AA. Here are the 10 essential disciplines for those living in a recovery residence.
1. The Morning Discipline (Step 11)
On awakening, use the structure of the house to find a moment of quiet. We ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest, or self-seeking motives. This is the foundation of our daily reprieve.
2. Practicing "The Pause" (Step 10)
Communal living brings friction. When agitated or doubtful, we learn to pause and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show.
3. The Vital Installment (Step 12)
Practical experience shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics. Look for the newcomer in your sober house. Your recovery depends on your willingness to share the Suggestion to Belief process with them.
4. Maintenance of the Spiritual Condition
A sober house provides safety, but it does not provide a cure. We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition.
5. Rigorous Honesty in Inventory
Living with others reveals our character defects quickly. Use these interactions to fuel your 4th and 10th Step work. When we are wrong, we promptly admit it to our housemates and sponsor.
6. Establishing a Home Group
The house is your residence, but the AA Group is your lifeline. Ensure your schedule prioritizes the Unity legacy by being an active member of a local home group outside the residence.
7. Sponsorship Alignment
A sober house should complement, not replace, the sponsor-protégé relationship. Use the house's accountability to ensure you are moving through the Admission of Defeat and into the subsequent steps.
8. The Discipline of Service
Small acts in the house—cleaning a dish that isn't yours or listening to a struggling roommate—are the beginning of the selflessness required to live the 12-Step life.
9. Financial and Social Amends
Use the stability of your environment to begin the 9th Step process. Being a "responsible" member of the house is a living amend to those we once let down through our chaos.
10. The Bridge to Independence
We view the sober house as a bridge to the world. Our goal is to strengthen our spiritual foundation so that we can eventually carry these principles into all our affairs, regardless of where we live.
Moving Forward with the 1939 Blueprint
If you are currently in a sober living environment, remember that the walls cannot keep you sober—only a Power greater than yourself can do that. Focus on the mechanics of the program, stick to the strict guidelines of our fellowship, and watch as the "Mental Blank Spot" is replaced by a new design for living.
"We are like the passengers of a great liner the moment after rescue from shipwreck when camaraderie, joyousness and democracy pervade the vessel from steerage to Captain’s table." — The Big Book
Ready to dive deeper into the mechanics? Explore our AA Recovery Roadmap for more guidance on the 1939 Blueprint.
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