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The 14 Directions: Why We Must 'Really Try' in Recovery

Lighthouse shining 14 beams representing the directions of recovery including hope, acceptance, courage, humility, integrity, forgiveness, and freedom guiding a path of healing

"Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path."

, we often hear the phrase "Halfway measures availed us nothing." But what does that actually look like in our daily lives? Many of us find ourselves sober, attending meetings, and yet feeling like we are missing the "vital connection." We are going through the motions, but the switch hasn't fully flipped. When we look closer at the Big Book, specifically page 58, we find a set of instructions that demand more than just attendance—they demand that we "really try."

In this post, we want to share our experience with what we call the 14 Directions. These aren't suggestions for a rainy day; they are the mechanical requirements for a personality change sufficient to overcome alcoholism. When we found ourselves stuck, it was usually because we were "trying" with our heads but not "really trying" with our actions.

The Anatomy of 'Really Trying'

We have found that there is a massive difference between "wanting" to be sober and "really trying" the program as it was shown to us. On page 58, the text doesn't say "Rarely have we seen a person fail who has read our book." It says: "Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path."

Thoroughness is the antidote to thin recovery. When we hit a plateau, we have to ask ourselves: Are we being thorough, or are we being convenient? Are we following the path, or are we trying to blaze our own trail while staying "sober enough"?

The 14 Directions on Page 58

When we break down the first two paragraphs of Chapter 5, we see a checklist of actions. We have found that when we feel stagnant, we can usually find a direction we’ve skipped. Here are the keys that were shown to us:

  • Thoroughly Followed: Not picking and choosing which steps fit our lifestyle.
  • Willing to go to any length: This is the "switch." If we aren't willing, the power doesn't flow.
  • Completely Given Themselves: Letting go of the idea that we can manage our own lives.
  • Being Fearless and Thorough: Especially when it comes to the inventory.

The Danger of 'Halfway Through'

We often think about being "halfway through" in terms of the Steps—like being on Step 6. But we have found that "halfway" is a state of mind. We can be on Step 12 and still be doing it "halfway." We do this by helping others only when it’s convenient, or by practicing these principles only when people are watching.

The Ninth Step Prayer asks that we be led to the right path. But we cannot be led if we are standing still. We have found that "really trying" means moving our feet even when we are afraid. It means making the difficult amends, not just the easy ones. It means showing up for the newcomer even when we have a busy schedule in our "occupations and affairs."

Attraction Through Action

As we discussed in our previous posts, we believe in attraction rather than promotion. But what makes us attractive? It isn't our words; it’s the peace and purpose we carry. That peace only comes when we are "really trying." When we are halfway in, we are restless, irritable, and discontent. People don't want that. When we are all in, the switch flips, and we become a demonstration of the program's power.

Practical Steps for Today

If we feel like we are just "sober enough," here is how we can restart the engine:

  1. Read Page 58 with a Highlighter: Mark every action word. These are your directions for the day.
  2. Identify the 'Any Length': What is the one thing you’ve said you *won't* do for your recovery? That is exactly where you need to start.
  3. Be of Service Without a Script: Find a way to help someone today where you get no credit and tell no one. This is the essence of "giving ourselves completely."

Final Reflection: Maximum Service

Our goal isn't just to stay sober; it is to be of maximum service to those around us. We cannot do that if we are holding back. We have found a way out, and that way is through total immersion in the actions shown to us by the ones who went before. When we "really try," we don't just survive—we begin to truly live.

What does "really trying" look like in your life today? Have you found a specific "direction" on page 58 that changed everything for you? We’d love to hear your experience in the comments.

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